Advice From a Mum on Letting Go of Childbirth Fear

Take it from me - I understand what it’s like to be riddled with anxiety about giving birth. When I found out I was pregnant with my first baby, one of the first thoughts I had was ‘oh God, it has to come OUT!’ And to be honest, this fear really stole a lot of the joy out of my pregnancy, which is such a shame.

There are some simple and powerful tools you can use to let go of any fear you might be holding onto. Here are a few that helped me….

Try to identify the root of your fears.

Certain experiences can trigger an intense fear of labour. This might be trauma around conceiving, surviving sexual abuse, losing a baby, a previous difficult delivery; or excessive exposure to horrifying labour stories from Hollywood, Internet forums or oversharing acquaintances. Recognising exactly what is causing our fears is the first step in taking away their power.

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Don't wait until labour day!

Start identifying and dealing with your fears at the beginning of your pregnancy, not the end. Chances are good that your worries are deep-seated, and it can take time to get to their source and address them.

Learn relaxation skills!

Practising self-hypnosis, meditating and doing breathing exercises while you're expecting can help calm you during pregnancy and labour. Listening to guided-relaxation tapes that describe your perfect peaceful place is another effective option. Our own hypnobirthing course is over on the butterbean platform, and has helped many of my clients to feel in charge of their own births.

Share your fears with those you trust.

Don't hesitate to tell your doctor or midwife that you're afraid; just talking about it may help, and they may have ideas about how to reduce your anxiety. Sometimes just learning the facts about how often delivery complications actually occur, and how we can avoid them, can put your mind at ease.

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Put your fears in writing!

Create a one-page birth plan that includes your desires about such options as pain medication, labouring positions and foetal monitoring, as well as an honest explanation of your fears. Share it with your caregiver during a prenatal visit and have a copy ready to give to the nurses when you're admitted to the hospital.

Shut out negative stories!

I can’t stress this one enough! Don't watch scary TV shows about childbirth, read sensational stories or listen to friends recount the gory details of someone else’s labour! Some experts believe that fear of delivery has become more widespread since the advent of Hollywood depictions of childbirth, which of course focus on theatrics for entertainment reasons!

Learn about pain relief

Get clued up about what’s out there. Most women fear the pain of childbirth to some degree, but knowing that safe and effective means of relief are available can help lessen your anxiety. Take a hypnobirthing course, learn about our bodies’ natural ability to produce pain-relieving hormones, and talk with your caregiver beforehand about medication and other pain-relief methods.

Take a hypnobirthing course

Hypnobirthing teaches you the reality of labour with the sole purpose of reframing fears and helping you work through any concerns you might have. It puts you in the driving seat and enables you to have a calm, confident birth. It facilitates deep and rhythmic breathing which means more oxygen, helping your muscles to work properly. If you’re not breathing, your muscles will become tense and this means more pain.

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Create a cosy birth environment

Darkness and a sense of privacy help your hormones to flow. Oxytocin is given a chance to help progress your labour smoothly, and endorphins can do their thing and kill your pain - they’re 10 times more powerful than morphine, after all!

This blog is just the beginning of the reassurance available to you through butterbean so join up to access all our resources that are aimed at making you feel well-informed, more confident, more relaxed and able to enjoy your pregnancy. For on demand advice as and when you need it, contact our email helpline which is monitored by a midwife. This means the support you need is only ever an email away!

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Advice From a Mum on Letting Go of Childbirth Fear

mum_holding_newborn_baby

Take it from me - I understand what it’s like to be riddled with anxiety about giving birth. When I found out I was pregnant with my first baby, one of the first thoughts I had was ‘oh God, it has to come OUT!’ And to be honest, this fear really stole a lot of the joy out of my pregnancy, which is such a shame.

There are some simple and powerful tools you can use to let go of any fear you might be holding onto. Here are a few that helped me….

Try to identify the root of your fears.

Certain experiences can trigger an intense fear of labour. This might be trauma around conceiving, surviving sexual abuse, losing a baby, a previous difficult delivery; or excessive exposure to horrifying labour stories from Hollywood, Internet forums or oversharing acquaintances. Recognising exactly what is causing our fears is the first step in taking away their power.

woman_being_comforted_by_a_friend

Don't wait until labour day!

Start identifying and dealing with your fears at the beginning of your pregnancy, not the end. Chances are good that your worries are deep-seated, and it can take time to get to their source and address them.

Learn relaxation skills!

Practising self-hypnosis, meditating and doing breathing exercises while you're expecting can help calm you during pregnancy and labour. Listening to guided-relaxation tapes that describe your perfect peaceful place is another effective option. Our own hypnobirthing course is over on the butterbean platform, and has helped many of my clients to feel in charge of their own births.

Share your fears with those you trust.

Don't hesitate to tell your doctor or midwife that you're afraid; just talking about it may help, and they may have ideas about how to reduce your anxiety. Sometimes just learning the facts about how often delivery complications actually occur, and how we can avoid them, can put your mind at ease.

couple_hugging_in_a_forest

Put your fears in writing!

Create a one-page birth plan that includes your desires about such options as pain medication, labouring positions and foetal monitoring, as well as an honest explanation of your fears. Share it with your caregiver during a prenatal visit and have a copy ready to give to the nurses when you're admitted to the hospital.

Shut out negative stories!

I can’t stress this one enough! Don't watch scary TV shows about childbirth, read sensational stories or listen to friends recount the gory details of someone else’s labour! Some experts believe that fear of delivery has become more widespread since the advent of Hollywood depictions of childbirth, which of course focus on theatrics for entertainment reasons!

Learn about pain relief

Get clued up about what’s out there. Most women fear the pain of childbirth to some degree, but knowing that safe and effective means of relief are available can help lessen your anxiety. Take a hypnobirthing course, learn about our bodies’ natural ability to produce pain-relieving hormones, and talk with your caregiver beforehand about medication and other pain-relief methods.

Take a hypnobirthing course

Hypnobirthing teaches you the reality of labour with the sole purpose of reframing fears and helping you work through any concerns you might have. It puts you in the driving seat and enables you to have a calm, confident birth. It facilitates deep and rhythmic breathing which means more oxygen, helping your muscles to work properly. If you’re not breathing, your muscles will become tense and this means more pain.

Pregnant_woman_practising_hypnobirthing_relaxation

Create a cosy birth environment

Darkness and a sense of privacy help your hormones to flow. Oxytocin is given a chance to help progress your labour smoothly, and endorphins can do their thing and kill your pain - they’re 10 times more powerful than morphine, after all!

This blog is just the beginning of the reassurance available to you through butterbean so join up to access all our resources that are aimed at making you feel well-informed, more confident, more relaxed and able to enjoy your pregnancy. For on demand advice as and when you need it, contact our email helpline which is monitored by a midwife. This means the support you need is only ever an email away!